And Now for Something Completely Different
Met up last night with one of my oldest friends, LadyDi, and her partner. LadyDi is the only person I keep in touch with from school (my school years were horrific – public school rod-up-the-arse nightmare – I’ll tell you about it sometime), so her friendship is fairly important to me. Unfortunately though, however much I try and warm to her man, I just can’t. He’s one of those dour northern blokes who despite being only 27 has the attitude and life-view of a 60 year old. You know the type. It’s not that he’s unpleasant, just… dour.
It was a nice evening though. The wine was flowing (or mineral water for MrDour), the food was good, the waiter was funny… And boy am I paying for it with my hangover today, which always suggests the evening was a success.
My problem though, is this: The more I see of other couples, the more I think that He and I have something entirely unique. Because he really is my best friend, and that just doesn’t come across in any of the other couples I know. I’m not being smug – if anything I’m wondering if we’re weird and doing something wrong – I’m just observing. LadyDi and MrDour practically had a row, in front of us, last night, and then proceeded to make little “It sounds like I’m making a joke, but actually it’s a barb” comments at each other all night. And the thing is, they are technically a happy, functional couple. They would say they are, anyway. But this is how they always behave with each other.
Oh I don’t know. It’s just strange that’s all. After years of being single-by-choice and observing couples from that vantage point, I had expected that once I was in a serious relationship I would understand that kind of bizarre behaviour. But it’s still a mystery to me.
It was a nice evening though. The wine was flowing (or mineral water for MrDour), the food was good, the waiter was funny… And boy am I paying for it with my hangover today, which always suggests the evening was a success.
My problem though, is this: The more I see of other couples, the more I think that He and I have something entirely unique. Because he really is my best friend, and that just doesn’t come across in any of the other couples I know. I’m not being smug – if anything I’m wondering if we’re weird and doing something wrong – I’m just observing. LadyDi and MrDour practically had a row, in front of us, last night, and then proceeded to make little “It sounds like I’m making a joke, but actually it’s a barb” comments at each other all night. And the thing is, they are technically a happy, functional couple. They would say they are, anyway. But this is how they always behave with each other.
Oh I don’t know. It’s just strange that’s all. After years of being single-by-choice and observing couples from that vantage point, I had expected that once I was in a serious relationship I would understand that kind of bizarre behaviour. But it’s still a mystery to me.
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